Tabloids and blogs often publish eye-grabbing headlines like “Top 10 Reasons Men in California Get Divorced” or “3 Things Men Who Succeed in Child Custody Battles Have in Common.” When you see such stories, take them with a grain of salt. Often, they flow from a...
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Month: May 2014
Why Some Couples Make It and Some Don’t – Part II
What drives couples apart, and what strategies help them to stay together? Pick up any tabloid, open any blog about marriage and family, or talk to any random person on the street, and you be assailed with passionate opinions. Unfortunately, parsing truth from fiction...
Why Some Couples Make It and Some Don’t – Part I
Decades ago, a famous social psychologist in Missouri conducted an experiment that would change the way researchers thought about divorce forever. The researcher took random people off the street and asked these people to observe couples through a one-way glass...
Seeing Your California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part VII
Self-improvement should be an ongoing quest. It is not a project that you do “just once” during your divorce. Rather, it is a way of life embodied by two basic principles: 1. Take action. Science suggests that we regret what we don’t do much more than we regret...
Seeing Your Costa Mesa, California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part VI
One curious finding from recent social psychology research is that human beings tend to be very influenced by their “inner circles.” Your closest friends, family members and associates have an outsized effect not just on the “nuts and bolts” of your life, but also on...
Seeing Your Irvine, California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part V
Let’s say that you acted brashly, in a way that potentially threatens your Irvine, California divorce or child custody situation or your close relationships. For instance, maybe you wrote a snippy email to your ex-wife’s sister, chastising her about some minor issue...
Seeing Your Southern California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part IV
If you are struggling with a Southern California Divorce , you might do things incommensurate with your values. In other words, you might act, say, or do things that you regret, perhaps instantly. For instance, you might: • Yell at your kids, when they’re too slow...
Seeing Your Santa Ana, California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part 3
In our last post, we built a case for why you really want to understand the root cause of your Santa Ana, California Divorce and child custody related problems, so that you can make progress in diverse areas of your life. But how do you find the core issues? You can...
Seeing Your Orange County, California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part 2
Self-improvement can provide dividends not only after your California divorce or child custody journey but also during it. What practical exercises can you try to manage your life and your problems better? One of the simplest is commonly known as root cause analysis....
Seeing Your Tustin California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part 1
Whether your husband left you after one too many quarrels over the kids’ nighttime routine or your spouse just walked out on you and your family one day at work, never to return, you are feeling awful, depressed, confused, and angry. The idea that this divorce – or...