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Seeing Your Santa Ana, California Divorce Or Child Custody Battle As Inspiration for Self-Improvement – Part 3

On Behalf of | May 12, 2014 | Divorce, Legal Separation

In our last post, we built a case for why you really want to understand the root cause of your Santa Ana, California Divorce and child custody related problems, so that you can make progress in diverse areas of your life. But how do you find the core issues?

You can Google “root cause analysis” and you find interesting and insightful articles about this concept and how to apply it to self-improvement. Here’s a cool and simple strategy to get started. It involves the act of sequentially questioning yourself about the cause of a behavior or activity. You ask why something is happening, then try to identify the underlying problem, and then repeat the process until you find the fundamental problem.

Let’s go through an exercise to make that process more concrete.

Let’s say that your real problem is that you’re facing your third Santa Ana, California Divorce. You want to know “what is wrong with me? Why does this keep happening?”

You would pursue the analysis this way:

Question 1: What is wrong with me that I’m getting divorced for a third time?

Answer 1: My relationships always seem fun at first, but then they hit the rocks later.

Question 2: Why do my relationships always seem fun at first but then hit the rocks?

Answer 2: I have high standards, and the women I marry can’t abide those standards.

Question 3: Why can’t the women I marry abide by those standards?

Answer 3: I’m an inherently picky person, perhaps.

Question 4. Why am I inherently a picky person?

Answer 4: My parents drove me to not tolerate failure, so now I have ultra high standards in everything I do.

In this theoretical case, the questioning yields a profound psychological insight. Not every root cause analysis ends this way. But hopefully you can see the utility of this tool.

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