One of the most compelling and exciting elements of the “Getting to YES” methodology is the idea that you can “invent options” when you’re in a negotiation. Obviously, you need to abide by rules and laws when you’re constructing a child custody and visitation plan....
Results-Oriented Family Law Representation
Month: November 2013
Focusing on Interest and Needs (Rather Than Judging and Blaming) in a Child Custody Negotiation
In Roger Fisher and William Ury’s “Getting to YES,” the authors urge participants in negotiations to focus on needs/interest rather than judging and blaming the people involved. All humans being have common basic needs, such as: • The need for recognition; • The...
How to Reduce the Nastiness of Your Divorce and Protect Your Kids
Fisher and Ury’s “Getting to YES” process can make child custody battles less mean and more likely to lead to “win-win” outcomes for everyone involved: for you, for your children, and for your spouse. The unifying idea of Getting to YES is this: aim to formulate...
Getting to “YES” Regarding Your Child Custody Battle
We all engage in heated negotiations in our lives, from the time that we’re little kids (and we want just one more cookie from our parents) to the time that we’re senior citizens. One of the most painful types of negotiation involves child custody. You’re not fighting...
How to Survive Financially After a Separation (Part 2)
Once you have a budget, what else do you need to do to survive financially after a divorce? First off, you might need to make modifications to your budget and/or lifestyle to meet your needs. If you need to pay spousal or child support, for instance, you’ll need to...
How to Survive Financially After a Separation (Part 1)
Whether you recently left your spouse — or he or she suddenly announced at the breakfast table that your marriage was over — you’ve been in free fall. Getting separated can be scary and disorienting. But one of the most “under discussed” challenges involves financial...