One curious finding from recent social psychology research is that human beings tend to be very influenced by their “inner circles.” Your closest friends, family members and associates have an outsized effect not just on the “nuts and bolts” of your life, but also on your personality and on your habits, beliefs and methods of action.
Most people don’t realize the nature and extent of this influence, and they pick and choose their friends based on proximity and other random factors. Do you have people in your life who bring you down — who give you bad advice or just make you feel lousy? If so, you might consider distancing yourself from them and starting up (or rekindling) relationships with people who make you feel good, who support you, and who bring out the best in you.
That advice may seem paradoxical, in light of the fact that you’ve just lost connection with your spouse, and your inner circle is likely smaller than ever. However, this time can be a profound opportunity to make a fresh start.
At the same time, you want to avoid jumping into new relationships, willy-nilly. For instance, other sociological research suggests that parents who re-partner rapidly after getting divorced can create an instable environment for their kids.
The point is: take it slowly. Make it an ongoing mission to find great people who bring out the best in you and to distance yourself from those who do the opposite. For practical help dealing with your California child support, child custody or divorce case, call the lawyers at Dinnebier & Demmerle today for a comprehensive consultation.