If you are struggling with a Southern California Divorce , you might do things incommensurate with your values. In other words, you might act, say, or do things that you regret, perhaps instantly. For instance, you might:
• Yell at your kids, when they’re too slow getting ready for bed;
• Send a vicious email to one of your ex-wife’s friends;
• Miss work because you are too lethargic or depressed about your divorce…and wind up missing out on a major opportunity for a promotion or bonus.
These setbacks can be really disheartening, especially if you are making a general effort to be positive, to take responsibility for your behavior and to be empathetic and mindful. It’s normal, when you are managing diverse, emotionally tough problems to lose control now and again. The key is to learn from your mistakes and to avoid doing anything that might get you into trouble, hurt someone or harm your legal case.
Assess what you have done, objectively, and think about how you can prevent similar issues in the future. (We’ll discuss a profound strategy about how to do this in a follow-up post.)
Before you can take action to change yourself – or hedge against problems – you need to be honest about what’s happened. Don’t hide from the truth or ignore or repress it. As the old saying goes: those who will not learn from history are bound to repeat it.
Along those lines, get assistance to make progress with your case. For instance, if you have not yet retained a Southern California Divorce attorney, call the team at Dinnebier & Demmerle immediately to set up a consultation with us.