The festive season may be a merry period for many, but it may not be the case for single and divorced parents. The holidays can give rise to anxieties and conflict, and feelings of loneliness may even creep in. In addition, financial pressure over the holidays is a reality for most single parents. Without the traditional family structure in place, such feelings may be coupled with guilt and regret.
Below are some parenting tips for single parents that may make the holidays more cheerful for them and the children alike.
Budget and spend within your means
While the pressure to splurge may be too much over the holidays, you should be careful not to overspend. It can leave you with a financial hangover and debts you had not planned for. Therefore, it is advisable to spend within your budget. Do not live in the moment just to get in the holiday mood. There is life after the holidays are over, and it is in your best interests that your finances are in order.
Do not isolate yourself
It is usual for single parents to feel alone during the holidays, especially if it is the first time. However, it is important not to self isolate and drown in misery. Instead, turn to your social support systems like close friends and family who are there for you and spend time with them. It will not only help you get through it all, but it will also create stronger bonds that may be beneficial to you in the future.
Do not compare your situation to others
While your ex-spouse, neighbors, or co-workers may seem to be having the time of their lives, everyone’s situation is different. Comparing yourself with others may take the fun out of the holidays, leaving you feeling inadequate. Do not feel ashamed of yourself or the situation you are in. Nothing is permanent, and better times may lie ahead.
In conclusion, it is important to carefully analyze your state of affairs and develop viable solutions to some of the issues you may be facing. For instance, if your co-parent is not holding up their end regarding child support or custody orders, you may seek legal recourse to remedy the situation. Learning more about the facets of law that affect your case will help you take actions that will protect your interests.