It can sometimes feel a bit tricky to ask your spouse for a prenup. You know that a prenuptial agreement can be beneficial, and that it does not signify that you are already thinking about divorce. But you may be concerned with how your spouse will react.
If you are, here are a few tips that can help as you broach the subject.
Specify that it is a precaution
Reiterate that you are not thinking about leaving the relationship. Ideally, you will never have to use the prenup, but you would just like to have it in place as a precaution to resolve financial issues.
Talk about each other’s best interests
The reality is that a prenup can be drafted so that it is in the best interests of both individuals. It simply helps you navigate a potential future divorce. Stress that you are still looking out for your spouse’s best interests by drafting this document.
Make them feel heard
While you do need to be firm about your own desires, give your spouse a chance to talk and make their voice heard. Show them that this is a two-sided conversation. Allow them to actively participate in the process.
Be open to compromise
While you may have some areas where you have a firm stance on what you want to include in the prenup, compromise can help the discussion go smoothly. Maybe your spouse will agree to a general prenup without issue, but they want slightly different terms. You may be able to have a deeper conversation about this and find a solution that is acceptable to both of you.
Drafting a prenup can be a useful step to take before getting married. As you go through the process, it can help to work with an experienced attorney.