Every couple goes through ups and downs. Couples may argue, not talk for a short time and disagree on goals and objectives. Nonetheless, most of these issues can be talked through and resolved.
Abuse, however, is a line that shouldn’t be crossed, and it’s difficult to salvage the marriage once this has occurred. It’s important to note that there are different types of abuse in relationships, with all of them having serious consequences. Here are a few to consider.
Physical violence
The most obvious type of abuse is physical violence. This can be hitting, kicking, pushing or shoving. It can also be sexual in nature. In severe cases, it may involve the use of weapons and extreme violence. Not only is this a physical danger to the victim, but it can have lasting emotional consequences.
Physical contact is not always required for this type of abuse. The mere threat of violence is a type of abuse.
Psychological manipulation
Psychological abuse or “mind games” may also occur in a relationship. This often consists of skewing the victim’s perceived reality (also known as “gaslighting”). For example, an abusive spouse may say that their partner is mean and that all of their friends agree, despite this not being the truth. The abuser will often try act like they are the real victim.
Controlling behavior
Abuse can also occur when one spouse asserts excessive control over the other. This can happen in several ways. For example, the abuser may prohibit their spouse from visiting certain family members. They may stalk their partner’s messages and social media accounts. In some cases, the abuser may even limit funds by confiscating debit and credit cards.
Abuse is unacceptable in any format, and it’s not something you have to accept. Your safest option may be to leave the relationship. Having legal guidance on your side can help you to do this in a controlled and secure manner.