Humans are able to communicate effectively through verbal cues. However, much of the talking people do actually comes from body language.
Several studies suggest that only 7% of meaning is communicated through spoken words, with up to 55% being expressed through body language. When communication breaks down in your marriage, there will be clear signs through poor body language. However, these signals are not always easy to spot. Here are some poor body language cues to look out for.
A lack of presence
For two-way communication to be effective, both parties need to be physically and mentally present. The majority of us have tried to have conversations with someone who is distracted, or we may have been the distracted one. This can be frustrating, but happens on occasion.
Nonetheless, if a lack of mental presence is a constant factor between couples, it could be a sign that the relationship is in trouble. Things you might notice include:
- Looking away from you when you are talking
- Sighing when you are talking
- Eye rolling
- Lack of eye contact
- Placing hands on the head
- Taking steps to increase physical distance
These are just some of the most common signs that a partner is trying to create both physical and emotional distance from you.
Lack of affection
Most married couples go through the “honeymoon period”. This is a time when excitement, lust and affection run high. For nearly every couple, this subsides somewhat. Marriage can be tough and part of the process is overcoming obstacles together.
Nonetheless, affection should remain a factor. Signs of poor body language in terms of affection include hugs that seem forced. Or, your partner may try to back away each time you try to hug them.
Couples can become out of sync, and increased effort from both parties can help get them back on track. However, when one or both parties is unwilling to work on the relationship, divorce may be the only option. Before making any final decisions, it will help to seek legal guidance.