You know that you want to use a prenuptial agreement. However, you’re not sure where your partner stands. They may fully agree with you and say that it’s a good idea, or they may feel very shocked and even hurt that you’d bring it up in the first place.
Prenups can be a very useful legal tool, but they can also be a difficult topic for couples to explore. Here are a few ways that you may be able to start this conversation without offending your partner or making it seem like you don’t even want to get married.
Talk about it early
For one thing, a prenup should never be a last-minute consideration. Start talking about it as soon as you talk about getting married. If you just view it as a potential part of the process, one more legal step to take, it may all feel very natural.
Talk about the future benefits
Another thing is to focus on the benefits. A prenup can help both you and your spouse. It can make a potential divorce easier, and some studies even show that a prenup makes marriages stronger. If you talk about these benefits, rather than the odds of divorce, your spouse can see that you are just trying to do what’s best for both of you.
Talk about how you can work together
If you draft a prenup and just ask your spouse to sign it, they may feel blindsided or like you are trying to control them. Instead, it may be a good idea to talk about different ways you can work together to create an agreement. Working together on this as partners can be an excellent start to your marriage, and you may never need to use the prenup at all.
Once you do have the prenup conversation, then it’s time to look into all of the necessary legal steps.