The idea of signing a prenuptial agreement could at first seem like you expect your marriage to fail. After all, much of what a prenuptial agreement discusses involves what happens if you get divorced.
However, prenuptial agreements aren’t inherently a sign that there’s already an issue in your relationship. Instead, the desire for a prenuptial agreement simply shows that the couple has something they consider worth protecting, like a business or a major asset such as a home.
If you find yourself thinking you need the protection of a prenuptial agreement or your fiance has already asked for one, you might worry that that doesn’t bode well for your marriage. Contrary to what you might think, creating a prenuptial agreement with your fiance could put you on the path to greater relationship success.
Creating a prenup could protect you from a future divorce
Deciding on the fairest and most reasonable way to set your property while your relationship is in a good place could protect both of you in the long run. You will not have to worry about fighting over your property in a divorce, so instead it simply becomes a technical, legal process rather than an imminent battle.
In fact, knowing what will happen with spousal support and property division might prevent some people from even filing for divorce. The mystery of divorce and the myth that one spouse often gets far more than the other could push someone to file. When you both know what to expect, divorce no longer seems enticing.
Negotiations now will ensure your expectations are the same
However well you know someone, you may not understand what their personal definition of marriage actually is. If you don’t talk about your rules and contributions to the marriage beforehand, either of you could be in for an unpleasant surprise as the marriage unfolds. By talking ahead of time about expectations, contributions and roles, you can minimize the conflicts after you get married.
Looking at the big picture helps couples start out right
Trying to set terms for divorce requires that you look at your long-term goals and the path that your future might take. It is easier to make a big commitment when both parties are comfortable with what their marriage could involve and the shape that their family will eventually take on as it grows.
A prenuptial agreement can build on shared values and goals while also minimizing the likelihood of conflict. It can also set you up for better co-parenting practices if your marriage does eventually fail. The negotiations for your prenuptial agreement could even make your marriage stronger and help you avoid issues that might lead to divorce in the future.