Whether you’ve been married for three years or 30 years, your California separation (and impending divorce) will likely have dramatic implications for your social circle.
One of the great indicators for health, wellness and prosperity is the strength and scope of your social network. If you are isolated — and you don’t have many friends or relatives in your life — you are less likely to be healthy, wealthy and emotionally adjusted.
During divorce, you may discover that your social network has shrunken. While you were married, that might not have been a big problem, because you had your spouse (and children and in-laws, etc). But when you lost your spouse, you lost that network.
So what can you do to manage your problems, make new relationships, etc? Here are two basic ground rules:
1. Start an ongoing quest to add robustness to your social network.
This doesn’t necessarily mean becoming “best friends” with dozens of new people or starting to date immediately after you divorce. It means going on an ongoing hunt to find great people to be part of your life.
2. Reduce ties with people who don’t contribute positively to your life, your family and your mission.
Some friends may not supportive and may actually be creating problems. You don’t need to “cut people off” right away, but do eventually cull your network, so that you wind up spending time with people who really love you and support you.
Contact Dinnebier & Demmerle to schedule a consultation about your California divorce.