Even if you manage to find enough time and money to “grind through” the California divorce, child custody, and child care process, you might find the stress and strain quite withering. How can you manage these events, psychologically, so that you don’t wind up depressed, overwhelmed, fatigued and constantly frustrated?
Unfortunately, there is no simple answer to the question of how to feel better after a divorce, just like there is no single, simple answer to the question of how to maintain a bright, cheery attitude when you’re raising small children.
Try to avoid sugarcoating the situation or denying your feelings: don’t force yourself to feel happy and content all the time. Rather, work hard to keep things in perspective. Every night, try to recall three incidents from the day that made you happy, and relive those moments of gratitude. For instance, maybe you are grateful that your kids are healthy. Or maybe you are grateful that you “just got through the day.”
Likewise, treat your body right by engaging in regular practices that will more lead to psychological balance and happiness. Spend time ever day introspecting, praying or meditating; get fresh air and sunlight; see people who love you and support you; eat enough good fats, protein and veggies and stay away from processed flour and sugar.
Lastly, lean on other people (and companies) to help you get through this time. Calling a lawyer at Dinnebier & Demmerle to schedule a consultation about your California divorce or child custody issue, for instance, can be great step towards discovering shortcuts to solve your legal issues and bringing this chapter of your life to a successful close.