In Roger Fisher and William Ury’s “Getting to YES,” the authors urge participants in negotiations to focus on needs/interest rather than judging and blaming the people involved. All humans being have common basic needs, such as: • The need for recognition; • The...
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Year: 2013
Inventing Options to Resolve Your Child Custody Battle
One of the most compelling and exciting elements of the “Getting to YES” methodology is the idea that you can “invent options” when you’re in a negotiation. Obviously, you need to abide by rules and laws when you’re constructing a child custody and visitation plan....
How to Reduce the Nastiness of Your Divorce and Protect Your Kids
Fisher and Ury’s “Getting to YES” process can make child custody battles less mean and more likely to lead to “win-win” outcomes for everyone involved: for you, for your children, and for your spouse. The unifying idea of Getting to YES is this: aim to formulate...
Getting to “YES” Regarding Your Child Custody Battle
We all engage in heated negotiations in our lives, from the time that we’re little kids (and we want just one more cookie from our parents) to the time that we’re senior citizens. One of the most painful types of negotiation involves child custody. You’re not fighting...
How to Survive Financially After a Separation (Part 2)
Once you have a budget, what else do you need to do to survive financially after a divorce? First off, you might need to make modifications to your budget and/or lifestyle to meet your needs. If you need to pay spousal or child support, for instance, you’ll need to...
How to Survive Financially After a Separation (Part 1)
Whether you recently left your spouse — or he or she suddenly announced at the breakfast table that your marriage was over — you’ve been in free fall. Getting separated can be scary and disorienting. But one of the most “under discussed” challenges involves financial...
When is a value assigned to assets in my divorce case?
California Family Code Section 2552 generally requires that for purposes of dividing community property that assets and debts be valued “as near as practicable to the time of trial”. If you are settling a case this usually amounts to as close as possible to the date...
My ex-wife requested sole legal and physical custody of our children as well as child support. What is going to happen?
Just because she is asking for sole custody does not mean that the court will order it. It sounds like you have been an active father and involved in your children’s lives. Assuming no other facts, the court should order that your contact with your daughter continues...
What Protection Immediately Results When Filing For Divorce?
In the State of California, immediately upon filing a divorce, both spouses or domestic partners are restrained from: 1. Removing the minor child or children of the parties, if any, from the state without the prior written consent of the other party or an order of...
When is drug use child abuse?
The recent case of In Re Drake M., decided December 5, 2012, makes clear that the mere usage of drugs by a parent, in and of itself, is not sufficient evidence that the minor child has been harmed or was placed at risk of harm from the parent’s drug use. While the...